Saudade;
word of Portuguese origin. The feeling of intense longing for a person or a
place you love but is now lost. A haunting desire for what is gone.
Photographs are messed up. Over the years
they have evolved, from being the reason my mother bathed and dressed me up for
to something I make duck face for when I wake up and then quickly delete. My
father loved pictures, I have numerous baby pictures documenting everything
that happened in my life. My mother hates them, I don’t know why. A man from
church was robbed and the thieves took his laptop. “I almost went to
witchdoctor, luckily I forgot my wallet!” He said. His laptop had photographs
of his baby girls from the day they were born. They are now 5 and 7
respectively and now he has no evidence of his memories. I too have lost a
photo album with the only existing picture of a fully grown me with my late
father. The witchdoctor is a sensible option when you lose something special.
Recently I went to a wedding looking so fly, those ‘snap and give’ camera men
can make a girl feel like a celebrity. I indulged them, struck a pose. I hated
the pictures, I looked bloated, old and as if my powder was a shade to light.
Terrible. I started working out the day after and threw out my foundation. I
was sorting out my stuff on Alexander (my laptop who I named that for no
reason) and I came across pictures of a different time and I clicked right and
right and I kept going on, reliving the moments. In the pictures I was with who
felt closest, I felt pretty, I was happy, carefree and I was in the moment. In
photographs were I was insecure I felt it again.
So strange, the girl I was in the pictures
does not exist and today I am ready to admit that sometimes I miss her. She had
hair, long hair that framed her face like a crown, she didn’t know what she
looked like but she took pictures, she smiled and she fell in love. Sometimes
she drank too much and her eyes were red in all the pictures. Some selfies are
those she took right before she got laid, and some pictures were taken after
she got laid with a stolen boyfriend. She wasn’t fearless, she was foolish.
Like a child who has never been burned she admired flames because they were
orange, red and pretty. I miss that girl but I don’t want to be her again. I wish
I could have been her friend to tell her to be wiser with her friends, to get
better grades and think about what she wants. I wish I could have been there to
tell her not to suck her best friend’s dick or to try Jamaican rum. I wish I
could have reminded her to remember God, I wish I could have stopped her from
going everywhere because not everybody could understand that she was just an
innocent fool. I wish I could have told her that she was smart, beautiful,
brilliant, strong and loyal. She had to meet a boy who broke her heart, her
daddy had to die and she had to really actually look into the mirror. I wish it
didn’t take bad things for her to learn.
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